02 Jan Ladies – Beware of holiday season proposals
If you’re in a relationship, chances are that your partner could propose to you in a couple of weeks – during the coming holiday season. Congrats!!
While this is an exciting prospect, it may be better for you to take it a bit slow and pause for a moment before saying “Yes”.
Research has shown that in the U.S. almost 40% of all engagements happen in the two-and-half months between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day – with the highest number coming during Christmas.
Sadly, it also shows that most people who get engaged during this period do it because of external influences and expectations…and therefore, are more likely to be divorced within a couple of years.
So, what does this mean for you?
- Slow down
Even though ladies would love a magical and surprise proposal, it should never feel to you like a shock. If you feel like “it just came out of nowhere”, it probably did. This means that both of you should have gone really deep in your relationship and have discussed your plans of being together forever. If he just pops the question when you’re barely getting to know some things about him, you should be careful.
- Don’t be pressured
Some men may want to put you in an awkward position by proposing to you over a family dinner during Christmas. Don’t be pressured to accept if you’re not yet ready – or if you want him to really prove himself after the celebrations. Kiss him, hug him, and help him get off his knees. But let him know that you guys still need time to talk.
- Be clear on your future together
Have you two discussed your future plans? Do you share the same values? Use your dating period wisely – get to know the guy you’re about to commit the rest of your life to. If you feel that you still have important things to clarify, please do it before you say Yes.
- If in doubt, ask for more time
The summary is that you have the right to ask for more time. And not just a right, it’s a responsibility you owe yourself in order to protect your heart. Don’t be rude about it. Gently make your position clearly known…and give your best to grow the relationship.
*** But hey, it’s not all doom and gloom. If you’ve done everything you can do to prepare, and your heart tells you that it’s the right moment, then go ahead and say Yes, it’s your day!!!
You should even invite us to your engagement party ??
Wishing you all the best in your relationship.
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