07 Dec Listen to what he says but only believe what he does
A friend of mine recently went through a very terrible breakup. She was so in love with her boyfriend and they'd been partners for 3 years.
The guy was such a smooth talker - he knew all the right things to say to a lady; and how to make her feel incredibly special.
But there was just 1 problem - his actions never matched up with his words.
He was a serial cheat; and each time he was caught, he had a wonderfully-worded excuse to explain the "mistake". Also, each time he was caught was his "last time" - it would never happen again.
Except that it happened over and over again.
Curiously, this lady stayed through each humiliating experience - always believing that things will get better. Love is a delicate thing - you can't make someone do what they don't want to do. So it was a bit difficult to advise her to leave.
My friend always believed everything the guy told her - even to the point of believing that one of the ladies he cheated with "forced him" to do it. But guess what?
He was actually getting married to this lady that "forced him" to sleep with her.
Long story short... She found out in the most humiliating way that her partner had been secretly planning his wedding with the other lady. It took a lot to console her...she was literally at the point of depression.
But heck, the guy doesn't deserve someone like her. Good riddance to bad rubbish. I'm glad that my friend is now back on her feet - stronger and better than ever before.
Moral of the story.
Guys know how to talk - they also know that women love hearing good things.
If your partner is telling you one thing and doing something else, you should be worried. Actions speak louder than words, and what someone does is what really matters - not what they say.
The essence of this post is NOT to make you start doubting your partner...but rather, to remind you that you alone have the responsibility to protect your heart.
Listen to what he says, enjoy the sweet words, but only believe what he does. That is the real him.
Wishing you the best in your relationship.
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